Therapeutic Coaching

With a continual sense of curiosity, enthusiasm and humility, it is one of my core beliefs that the primary reason for most of our feelings of being stuck, unhappiness, relational challenges, and pain is unhealed emotional trauma.

Unhealed emotional trauma is stored and re-lived in our bodies. We experience this somatically – in the body – which means it shows in the form of emotions, reactions, sensations, behaviors, feelings, and thoughts. 

“DON’T THINK, FEEL…”  Bruce Lee

When we are activated, the parts of our brain that process cognitive language go offline. Basically, we can’t talk ourselves out of these experiences or responses, we have to somatically SHOW these parts we are safe. We have to FEEL and experience it. 

Below are the modalities and philosophies that are central to how I practice. Together, we will use these to support you in creating internal safety, which will allow you to full embrace the totality of the human experience and move towards the life you want to be living.

 

SOMATIC APPROACH

Trauma is stored, relived and experienced in and through our bodies. Somatics is what Heals.

How much of your life is upheld by “coping” strategies? Just getting through?

Somatic Experiencing is designed to support each person in processing trauma in a titrated (tolerable) way. This approach allows for integrated healing to transpire and brings freedom from the overwhelm that past traumas leave us with.

We have all experienced emotional traumas and, left unattended, they will cause problems in our bodies & physical health, relationships, purpose and overall life. Somatic healing work is foundational in healing trauma.

Simply said, Somatics is embodied healing.

Polyvagal Theory

EVERYTHING YOU THINK, DO AND FEEL – MAKES SENSE! IT’S NOT NECESSARYLIY CORRECT, BUT IT MAKES SENSE.  YOU – MAKE – SENSE.

“Polyvagal Theory, developed by Dr. Stephen Porges, offers a way to understand the human autonomic nervous system and directly engage with habitual patterns of response. Through a polyvagal lens we can learn to listen to our embodied stories.”

-Deb Dana

 

Why Your Parts are so Important to Understand

Our Autonomic Nervous System (ANS) is an incredibly protective force within each of us is here to protect us from threat and danger and also support us in being in safety.

When traumas are stored (including the development of insecure attachment styles), our ANS becomes dysregulated in order to keep us protected and safe for emotional ,physical, psychological and perceived harm. 

This is experienced by spending the majority of our time in either our Sympathetic Nervous System (commonly expressed as one or more of these states – fight/flight/freeze/immobility) or our Dorsal Vagal Complex, which is our oldest response and results in shut down for long periods of time.

A dysregulated nervous system is an incredibly common experience and in certain situations, we NEED to be dysregulated in order to be responding APPROPRAITELY to the situation we are in. However, extended period of times feeling dysregulated without sufficient time in our Ventral Vagal States (connected to play, rest, connection and security) is a primary marker for unhappiness in our lives.

Understanding your responses via Polyvagal Theory and approaching healing via somatics, you will begin to regulate your nervous system; allowing more of you to step into the life you want to be living and support you in feeling more in control of your internal experience, so that outside circumstances aren’t chronically effecting your state.

YOU CANNOT TALK OR THINK YOUR WAY THROUGH EMOTIONAL EXPEREINCES; YOUR BODY IS SPEAKING TO YOU ALL THE TIME, WORDLESSLY.
IT’S UP TO YOU TO ACTIVELY, CONSCIOUSLY AND PATIENTLY LISTEN.

AND SO MUCH OF WHAT YOUR BODY IS SEARCHING FOR, IS FORGOTTON LEVELS OF SAFETY, CONNECTION AND JOY.I AM PASSIONATE ABOUT HELPING YOU REMEMBER THEM.

More Info on coaching session, corporate workshops and my approach to therapeutic coaching coming soon.